By Robert Gammon, Kathleen Richards, Express staff and contributors, Express staff, Darwin Bond Graham, Michael Berry, Janelle Bitker, Amyra Soriano and Matt St.ike many people living in a major metropolitan city, I came here to make bank and add some sparkle to my résumé. While I was trying to get out of a bad relationship, I was offered a job in San Francisco.One of them had what Ok Cupid blogger Christian Rudder calls a "My Space angle" — i.e., holding a camera from a high angle in attempt to show cleavage, or alter body proportions.(Interestingly, Ok Cupid stats indicate that a janky My Space shot is actually one of the most effective, particularly on women's profiles.) Men are less likely to post duplicitous photos, said a writer colleague who recently retired her dating profile, because they simply don't know what constitutes a flattering image.I'd hasten to add that some men post photos of themselves the one time they take a shower and put on a suit.The words you choose to describe yourself are also important. Researchers at Nottingham Trent University in the UK found that seemingly trite descriptors — "cutie," "sweetie," "fun2bwith" — ranked pretty high for both men and women; they also found, rather disconcertingly, that straight men are a lot less likely to contact a woman who advertises herself as "well educated." The website Boy Meets Boy argues that gay men have "perfected the art" of the screen name, and cited a tried-and-true example: "bottomboi69." For the less literally-inclined, though, it helps to use a goofier proper noun.Set your alarm early, and you can guarantee a spot in the first seating.
Free sites like Ok Cupid don't have that advantage, so don't be surprised if you're a single woman on the site, and some guy messages you with an extremely scrubby and/or mercenary line – e.g. " Or: "Hey, can you give me any advice on finding a job? Such tensions are less pronounced in Oakland, where a larger portion of the populace belongs in the 99 Percent."I met my honey 21 years ago via East Bay Express, back in the days of paper-only," one woman wrote, in response to a query on Twitter."It's been a happy 21 years ...." A guide to this holiday season's gifts, outings, eats, and more.I’ve met two different types of men here: those who are too busy to even think about socializing (unless it’s with an executive) and those who date with no strings attached, i.e., they’ll bang anything that moves.